October 16, 2001
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women and compliments...
Yesterday in preparation for my trip I had my legs waxed and got a therapeutic head/face and shoulder massage (I get terrible sinus problems and the face massage really helps), the woman who did the waxing and massage and I were talking and I told her that I'd just sold a painting, and that it was going to be on the cover of a soon to be published book. She exclaimed "Oh my god! I'm waxing the legs of a rich and famous artist!"
"I'm far to young to be a rich and famous artist. I have to die first"
She laughed and said "Oh yeah. I've got some exciting news too, I've just got a part in a movie, I'm meeting the producer tonight!"
Turns out she will be playing the part of a prostitute in an up coming movie by a reasonably well known NZ production house, the down side of this is (for her) is that she will have to not only do a sex scene, but do it naked. This woman was about 6 sizes smaller than me and I couldn't work out why she would be shy about her body. I laughed and said "well at least you know anything terribly unflattering will be edited out!"
She laughed "True! and next week, you'll be in your bikini relaxing with a glass of bubbly by a pool, huh?"
"Me in a bikini? I don't think so, not with these thighs and stomach!"
"you'd look great in a bikini, you might be curvy but at least its all firm and not flabby and horrible"
"Are you talking about the same body I see in the mirror?"
We both laughed, but then the room fell silent.
That killed that conversation.
While she started my massage I started thinking.
What is it about woman and their bodies? Or women and compliments? Why can we not accept a compliment graciously.
So later while she massaged my hands and arms she said "You know, you have the most beautiful little hands I have ever seen, they are so tiny and perfect!"
I decide this will be the first a compliment I will take with grace, I blushed slightly and said "thankyou, my guy calls them my itty bitty hands".
OK, so I'm starting small, but maybe I'll work up to that bikini (honestly the thought scares me!)
Comments (8)
Wear it proudly for all us thick girls!!!
Dee ~ What a wonderfully surprising blog! You know, I compliment women at times ('CUUUUUUUUUTE SHHHOES') and they respond 100 times more than if it came from a man...know why? Because a compliment from one woman to the next is the highest compliment on earth...know why? Because women wouldn't compliment you if it weren't true.
I can soooo relate to this. Recently I was in a situation that involved some fairly major compliments... "You have a lovely smile"... yea I can go with that one. "You have lovely eyes"... yea I can go with that one too. "You have lovely breasts"... you're pushing it here but ok I can kind of concede that one. "You have a beautiful body"... I think laughter and "Yea right" were not the right answer. I've discovered that not accepting a compliment can be quite a passion killer
well i hope the sex scene is done with someone naked! sheesh.
what kind of sex scene would it be.
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Dee - Know exactly what you mean, I used to be like that too until I realised that a compliment is just that.
We're in the era of the Barbie Doll. If only we curvy women had been born 50 years ago... or 100...
And ask around. A lot of men prever curvy to bony.
woman, YOU ARE FINE! and i mean that in all its african-american vernacular potential; as in "foine," as in, oh-so-fine, oooh-you-sure-are-fine, etc. etc. etc.
women are more critical of our bodies & looks than anyone else could ever be. (unless we work in the fashion industry, in which case the criticism might actually be matched by that of casting agents and stylists.) the point is, accepting that which is delicious about ourselves seems to be harder for us, for whatever reason, than accepting what we see as our flaws.why not accept what's beautiful as readily?
great start with the hands.
I dunno, I do the same thing. I either can't take the compliment at all, or I just blush and get flustered.
My reactions are pretty 50/50. lol
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